‘
Self-esteem
’ describes the beliefs you have about yourself – what you think about the type of person you are, your abilities, the positive and negative things about you and what you expect for your future.
If you have healthy
self-esteem
, your beliefs about yourself will generally be positive. You may experience difficult times in your life, but you will generally be able to deal with these without them having too much of a long-term negative impact on you.
If you have low
self-esteem
, your beliefs about yourself will often be negative. You will tend to focus on your weaknesses or mistakes that you have made, and may find it hard to recognise the positive parts of your personality. You may also blame yourself for any difficulties or failures that you have
Negative thinking patterns associated with low
self-esteem
, such as assuming you will fail at things you do, can develop over time and lead to problems such
depression
or
anxiety
.
Low self-esteem
can make it hard to try new things or complete tasks, such as starting a new hobby or completing a job application. This can stop you from living your life the way you want, and lead to frustration and
depression
over time.
If you find certain situations difficult because of low
self-esteem
, you may start to avoid them and become increasingly socially isolated. This can cause feelings of
anxiety
and
depression
.
Low self-esteem
can cause people to develop unhelpful behaviours as a way of coping, such as forming damaging relationships, taking drugs or drinking too much. This often causes problems in the long-term and makes life more difficult.
If you are finding it hard to cope with low
self-esteem
, you might find a talking treatment helpful. A talking treatment can help you explore and understand the reasons behind your low
self-esteem
and develop possible solutions to deal with it.
Cognitive behaviour therapy (
CBT
) is often the treatment of choice for
low self-esteem
. It aims to identify connections between thoughts, feelings and behaviour, and helps you to develop practical skills to manage any negative patterns that are causing you difficulties.
In order to increase your
self-esteem
, you need to challenge and change the negative beliefs you have about yourself. By yourself, this can feel like an impossible task, but with the help of a good Cognitive Behavioural therapist, people can improve their
self-esteem
enormously and have a perspective on how to maintain these changes.
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